If you are not centered, your ability to engage is severely impaired and may be completely negated. Being relational is not a step-by-step process. It’s not a do this, and then do that kind of thing. To promote quality dialog, you want to do your best to be engaged, centered, grounded, and clear all at the same time. You may already have a concept in your mind of what it means to be centered, maybe not, or maybe it is not very well defined. What does it mean to be centered?
Everyone gets stuck from time to time in the habitual ways associated with their personal defense mechanisms. How might you move more freely and gracefully with others? You have had the experience of feeling in harmony with others and within yourself. That is the essence of being centered. It is both within you, in your center, and around you, in how you are with others. Recall how that felt in your body. Remember that feeling. It is a resource.