Change the Interaction.

Create Better Outcomes for Everyone.

We must make the conscious choices needed to create the different reality that our nature craves-–the reality of joy, abundance and love, not just for ourselves, but also for others


Much of what brings on suffering that can lead to despair can be affected positively by the actions and choices of those who live in health and wealth. The choices made by those blessed few, the “winners,” affect every person in our society.


Maybe you want to do something to change your story, to change your reality. Maybe not. You have options. You can make different choices-–in what you do, in what you say, in what you think.



Lasting positive change in your family, workplace, community and world starts with you -- and how you relate to other people. Being gentle in how you use your power because what you do affects others. You want that effect to be positive. You want to maximize well- being for both yourself AND others. ORANS exists to help you with that - teaching and blogging about Being Relational

What do we do?
ORANS wants to help you change the world - one interaction at a time. We’re doing this in a few ways; on our blog by offering the “ORANS Perspective” on events that are happening in the news, in our culture, and otherwise; by creating curriculum and programs that will help you and others dive deeper into what it means to “Be Relational”; and by bringing you events that will help you connect with others who share your desire to create lasting positive change.

At the same time, ORANS is focused on bringing you the world of Relational content on a daily basis. We lift up the stories of those who are Being Relational (even if they don’t realize it) and put the spotlight on those who deserve it. We’re searching for great images, videos, and stories that show how Being Relational can change the world and, as a member of the ORANS community, you’ll have complete access to those stories.

What does it mean to #LiveORANS?

#LiveORANS means that you consider your interactions, all of them. You know that maximizing self-interest in the short run might get you what you think you want. Maybe not. Being relational, you consider yourself and your impact on others. You believe you can get what you want without disadvantaging others. You practice being relational in every interaction. When you do, you enter into a sense of connectedness with others. A sense of ease. Others feel it too. You maximize well-being. You anticipate that something good will happen when you engage relationally. It is unknown exactly what that is or will be. You are okay with that. You know you can positively expect the unexpected.

In Contrast: Being Transactional

The problem is what might be called a transactional approach to our interactions with others-–our negotiations--acting to serve our needs and desires and placing little value on the quality of interaction with the other person and their well-being-- all those moments in our lives when we choose to try to get the best of the situation at the expense of others or to the disregard of others. A transactional approach views interactions with others as transactions where the goal is to get the maximum value for oneself. But let’s be clear, we are not claiming that self-interest, and the competitive drive that serves it, is inherently unhealthy. In fact, it is unquestionably good. But when it becomes a way of life and governs all our interactions and how we view our place in the world, then it leads to undesirable outcomes, needless suffering, and a cycle of festering or escalating conflict.

What do you do to make sure that you are present and attentive when you are with someone?

How can you show others that you are interested in them?


The challenge for those who are the winners--the ones with the power and resources--and the hope for our cultural evolution is to change the paradigm of interaction.
If we look closely at how we use our power, how we compete, negotiate, and relate, then the shift from being transactional to being relational can begin.

Together we can move from focusing only on self and maximizing gain, to focusing on both self and other and maximizing well-being.


The Seven Ways of Being Relational

You Can Change the World, One Interaction at a Time



Will you engage with others seeking quality interaction or will you stonewall, ignore, avoid, and evade?



Will you be centered or will you react and act on your emotions?
Will you be unitive or will you recklessly align with others to create divisive coalitions?



Will you stay grounded or will you let your thinking about what should be, could be, or used to be cause suffering for you and others around you?



Will you be clear or will you use clever words and deception to get your way or get out of trouble?



Will you be generous or will you let your fear of scarcity and desire for more prevent you from sharing with others?



Will you be humble or do you believe that you deserve special treatment and what you expect of others shouldn't be expected of you?



Will you be kind or will you use your power and resources to force others to do what you want them to do?


The Choice is Yours.

Master the ways of Being Relational. Incorporate them into your life and change the world one interaction at a time.

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Explore the Idea of Being Relational

Engaging is a deliberate act. It is an act of ease once practiced, but it is never habitual. It takes commitment to be engaged and live relationally.


The acknowledgment of another, pausing in your life to be fully with another even for a second, is such a simple act, yet it can take so much awareness and courage to do it.


How do you balance your ego with humility? In what ways do you pitch in to help out when you don’t have to?