Common sense tells you that you can’t interact, you can’t negotiate, you can’t have a conversation, you can’t relate to another person unless you engage with them. It is the sine qua non, the first thing involved in Being Relational.
To be engaged, we invite you to focus on the quality of the interaction itself. Take a close look, a micro-focused look, at daily interactions. Take a look at how you interact with other people. If you regularly, habitually, fall into any of the above behaviors and coping strategies, you are not engaged. These may be habits that protect you, but they are barriers to engagement with others. You can change that if you want to.
Engaging is a deliberate act. It is an act of ease once practiced, but it is never habitual. It takes commitment to be engaged and live relationally.
The acknowledgment of another, pausing in your life to be fully with another even for a second, is such a simple act, yet it can take so much awareness and courage to do it.